When we start talking about relationships, this is where toxic positivity comes in. Let's just have relationships, let's just be together. Most people say they'd like that, but somehow the dominant culture ain't making that happen. The fact is, the parent hears that and says, "You're saying that to me, but I'm not the one creating a cognitively hostile environment, an emotionally hostile environment, or relationally hostile environment by allowing racial bullying or allowing microaggressions.”

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